Don’t Judge Me

don’t judge me

you don’t know me

you don’t know what I’m going through

you don’t know what I’m struggling with

you have no right to tell me what to do

don’t judge me

How do I justify those words with these?

  • love one another (John 13:34 and 35 and John 15:17 and Romans 12:10 and Romans 13:8 and 1 Thessalonians 4:9)
  • be mutually encouraged by one another’s faith (Romans 1:12)
  • [be] dependent on one another (Romans 12:5)
  • give direction to one another (Romans 15:14)
  • help each other (1 Corinthians 12:7)
  • build each other up. (1 Corinthians 14:26)
  • Aim for restoration  (2 Corinthians 13:11)
  • comfort one another  (2 Corinthians 13:11)
  • Bear one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2)
  • speak truth each one of you with his neighbor (Ephesians 4:25)
  • Therefore encourage one another and build one another up (1 Thessalonians 5:11)
  • continue to encourage one another every day, as long as it is called “Today,” so that none of you may be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin (Hebrews 3:13)
  • let us continue to consider how to motivate one another to love and good deeds (Hebrews 10:24)
  • keeping one another strong in faith; and all the more because you see the day coming near (Hebrews 10:25)
  • make it your habit to confess your sins to one another and to pray for one another, so that you may be healed (James 5:16)
  • God has given each of you a gift from his great variety of spiritual gifts. Use them well to serve one another. (1 Peter 4:10)

The world, in the name of “tolerance”, has placed such a negative connotation on the word “judge” that no one, not even others in my own life, feel they have the “right” to speak up and speak truth.  When I use this word for the purposes of this writing I guess I am really using the definition that is “to infer, think, or hold as an opinion; conclude about or assess OR to make a careful guess about; estimate.”  Those definitions are necessarily negative in nature.  They can be, and usually are, for the building up, for helping me, for restoration, to serve.

In the New Testament, the for for judging is from the Greek.  krino.  This word really just means “to determine and discern something”.  Judging is an unavoidable part of life. All of our choices consist of judging. I judge the weather to determine whether or not I should wear a jacket, or bring an umbrella.  I judge the items in my fridge to decide what to fix for dinner.  I judge different vacation spots to make a decision about where to go this summer.  But what about judging people?  We are not to judge others by our own human standards.  We are commanded in John 7:24 to judge with righteous judgement.  As a Christian, I want to use God’s Word as the authority in my life, so I take my thoughts, decisions, struggles to His Word to learn how to live.

I will be the first one to admit that I am not always right.  I do not always make the best decisions.  I do not always to the right thing, say the right thing, think the right thing.  I do, however, want to have people whom I trust, in my life to help me navigate this crazy life.  And there are times when that means they must “judge” me.  Not negatively, not spitefully, not to tear me down, not to hurt my feelings…but to make me better.  To make me into the woman God has called me to be.

I have given many people in my life permission to “judge” me.  They are people who love me.  Who have walked through this life with me.  Who know me.  Some of them are family members, some are friends, some are mentors (people I look up to), some are pastors.  They’re my people.  How did they become my people?  They’re people I know will tell me the truth because they love me and what me to be who God wants me to be.  The don’t just tell me their opinion.  But truth.  Sometimes hard to hear truth.  Truth from God’s Word.



I thought I would try a little musing today. My Daddy does a daily devotional type thing on facebook every morning called “Max’s Morning Musing”. Lots of people read it. It’s really just what he experiences and learns each morning when he spends his personal quiet time with the Lord.

In the ten and a half years that we have lived in our current house, I have never gone out on the front porch (or the back deck for that matter) and just listened to the morning, the birds, the insects, the wind in the trees, the traffic in the distance.

As I sit here this morning, on my front porch, listening to the morning that has really already begun, I’m reminded of a passage of scripture that I think of nearly every day of my life. I even pray this over my kids every morning either as they leave for school, or when I get up.

Lamentations 3:22-24 says this,

“Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail.
They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.
I say to myself, “The Lord is my portion; therefore I will wait for him.”

I find a lot of comfort in that passage. The first being the Lord’s great love. He truly does have a great love. I mean, it has to be pretty great in size to be able to love everyone, all at the same time, for all eternity. Now, I’m no Bible scholar by any stretch of the imagination, but that’s how I read it. It’s a great love. A BIG love…for which I am truly thankful. And because of that great love for me, for you, for people we have never and will never meet this side of heaven, because of that great love, we are not consumed. Oh Man! What a promise. There are days that I just feel overwhelmed. Overwhelmed by responsibility, obligations, feelings. Days I just feel consumed. BUT, because of His great love for us, I will not be consumed. I can daily rest in that promise!

His compassions never fail. He will always care about what I’m feeling, He will always care about when I hurt, He will always care about when I cry, He will always care about when I rejoice. He has a great love and unending compassions. for me. and for you.

And not only will they never fail, but they are new every morning. WOW. To never fail, never run out AND to be NEW every morning. Every single morning! Even THIS morning!

And then after all that, His faithfulness! Oh, His faithfulness. How great it is. Even when I am not faithful to Him. In those moments when I struggle with whether or not He’s really there. On those days when it just seems like nothing is going the way I think it should. In those times of uncertainty. His faithfulness is great.

I say to myself, “The Lord is my portion; therefore I will wait for him.” How can I NOT wait for him? After all that He has done, is doing and will continue to do for me, having a great love, not allowing me to be consumed, being faithful…yes I choose to wait for Him.

After all, He knows what He’s doing. I can trust Him after all that. He is my portion. Just what I need, when I need it.

And so it begins…

I’ve been thinking of starting a blog for quite some time.  I just couldn’t think of a way to justify it.  Why should I blog?  What would I say?  What could I say?  Would anyone care?  Then I decided that I do have something to say.  I have family literally on the other side of the world.  At the moment, my sister and her family live in Panama, my brother and his family live in Vanuatu, and my son is serving our country in Afghanistan.  This can be a great way to keep them updated about all that happens in our lives.

So, here goes.  I titled this blog, “My Flourishing Family” because my favorite verse in the Bible is Psalm 92:12, “The righteous will flourish like a palm tree.”  No, we’re not perfect, but we strive to live our lives in such a way that our Lord will be glorified and in return, we will flourish.

There you have it.

And here we go!